Hello table- let me ask you something, do you have a daughter and if you do how often do you give her confidence? I know that seems like a strange question to some. I mean how do you give someone confidence and better yet shouldn’t that be given with our daughters? Well sometimes its not, sometimes our daughters give such a good masking their true feelings. Sometimes they smile and do so much that they make you believe they have confidence all on their own but truthfully they don’t. Yesterday I attended a paren-teacher conference with my twins.
The first conference was with my twin daughter’s teacher and this was student led. During the conference her teacher said a lot of things, now nothing bad, but it did get me to thinking. As the teacher was talking to my daughter she begin to cry after stating profusely they she could read. My heart broke because she didn’t hear anything that the teacher said because she felt as if she was being attacked and because she struggled last year with reading and was doing better she felt defeated as if her improvement had been wiped away. I explained to her that of course she could read that wasn’t the problem.
So at that moment I told the teacher that she would do better and not to worry. That night I explained to my daughter that she had to stop being so hard on herself when she saw something new. I told her to stop saying she couldn’t do something and started stating she can. Sop getting frustrated at a problem and take a deep breath and focus. You see a lot of times when we’re hit with problems we want to get discouraged but the bible says I am not moved by what I see. You know why because you have seen the problem before whatever the problem is, so you can answer it or handle it.
My daughter struggled in the beginning of last year so the teacher helped her, but we got her a tutor and she started learning things on her own, so than her reading improved and because her reading improved, so did her math and writing. Her confidence was being built up and she was happy. Now in a new grade(3rd) and new material she is once again feeling like that little girl who was struggling. Her confidence started to wane and I didn’t know it until I sat there and listened to the teacher.
This morning I told her to repeat after me, Today is today and yesterday is in the past, I will better today because I am smart, beautiful and black girls rock. She said it with such a big smile and said I ma going to do it because I’m beautiful and I said and smart. Please table no matter you’re race give your daughter her confidence. Let her know that she’ll always make it because she is beautiful and smart and she rocks. My friends and I started a step/dance team in high school called D.I.V.A.S. (Diversified, Intelligent, Valuable, Aggressive, Sisters), we built each other up and we were all these things and more. Today is a new day and these girls need something like this again, so I will be bringing it to the DMV. if you have a daughter hit me up and make sure you tell her today is today and yesterday is in the past, you are going to do better because you’re smart, you’re beautiful and Black Girls Do ROCK. See you at the next discussion.