Hello Table! Glad to have everyone seated at my table again. Well let’s dive into this topic. How many of you by round of virtual hands really take time for yourself? Hmm, I don’t see many hands raised, joking, but I bet a lot of people are saying to themselves I don’t take time for myself. This is something I had to learn as I got older. Sometimes when we’re in our 20’s we can become a little selfish, so we do tend to make more time for ourselves. It’s all about me! However, as we get older or have responsibilities than the focus shifts from ourselves to the responsibilities that we have. I remember being a very young mom, my focus was my son but also getting me. What does getting me mean? It means I had goals and I was determined to reach them no matter what. Oh my goodness what a time that was. I had some high times, welcome to the mountain tops, and some low times, it’s the valley, but all those experiences shaped me into the woman I am today.
With that being said I look back and I see I had more time for myself, especially around the summer. I was able to get extra schooling if I wanted, travel whenever without my kids and just do whatever I wanted to do. Not so easy when you become older and start focusing on your career or a family. With everything that I just said did I really have time for me? Nope, when I wasn’t taking care of children, I was focusing on getting my accolades together so I could perform better at a job. I mean I was always on the go and it never seemed like I was happy in one place for too long. I didn’t even notice that I never took a breather for myself. Once I got married and had my last child I noticed how much I was really doing. I would get irritable and I was very tired. I made sure everyone else was taken care of, that I literally forgot myself. I cooked, cleaned, worked, and went to school all day 24/7. That was my life, did I forget to mention I was a lot older than the 20+ year old young woman in the beginning.
My husband literally started making me do date nights and forget about the kids and the house. I mean it’s not as bad as it sounds, but I would be like we can’t go out for dinner what about the kids or go see a movie but what are the kids going to do? He was like stop worrying about the kids they’re fine and we have older kids who can make sure they are good. Long story short, not really, I had to force myself to start taking care of me first and then everyone else. Now this doesn’t mean to start being selfish all of a sudden, but sometimes you have to put everyone else on the back burner, which is why I’m focusing on my brand and building an empire. I have given other companies and businesses more than enough of me. It’s time for me to focus squarely on what I want and what makes me happy.
Even if you don’t have a family or want to own your business, taking care of you still applies. If you are in a business or company, where do you see yourself? Do you want to be the president? Do you want to be the manager? Do you just want to be paid well but not have all the responsibilities of a supervisor? Than take care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. You’re no good to anyone if any of those are out of whack. Take a moment to get in-tuned with whichever is out of balance. If you give yourself a break you’ll feel refreshed and happier. So I pose the question again how many people really take time for themselves? What do you do to unwind and focus on yourself? Leave your comments and let me know. Remember keep it respectful. See you at the next discussion.